Attached

Aparigraha

Let’s talk about it.

This Yama is a Yoga philosophy that invites us to live in a state of non-grasping, non-possessiveness, and non-attachment. It invites us to find freedom in letting go. It invites us to move through life and the world unattached to outcomes and without holding onto that which is no longer serving us.

But…

The problem with too much information is often misinformation.

If you've spent any time on social media or the internet you've seen, and have heard about the art/rule/law of detachment, and how great it is, and that it is the answer to all our problems.

Everyone brags about how "detached" they are.

Well, allow me to debunk that and offer truth.

Because one of these things is actually not like the other.

Detachment is a lack of presence and awareness.

Detachment fosters disconnection.

The literal definition of detachment is separation.

Emotional detachment is a state and condition in which a person is not able to be fully present or engage with their feelings or the feelings of others.

Detachment is the cause and reason why we are seemingly incapable of forming and maintaining genuine connections and relationships.

Non-Attachment, however, is showing up fully and being present and available without being stuck or fixated on ideas, or images, or feeling an internal pressure to acquire, hold, avoid, or change the outcome.

Detachment is what got us here. It will Not get us out.

Detachment is not, and should Never be the goal or objective.

Show up.

Feel your feelings.

Transform your emotion into action.

Lay down your armor and lead with love.

Love is the answer, and it's the only thing that can lead us back to community and connection.

Love is the source, and our work is to be able to access source in the midst of the stuff.

Words and phrases have and hold power. Be mindful and intentional about what you speak into and over your life; and the messages with which you choose to align.

Love.